EAST vs WEST marriage thingy

it was pops out in my mind earlier when i was taking a bath..the big difference that east(especially in Indonesia,i don't speak for any other east countries..)and west countries having bout marriage thingy..

what is the deal here in Indonesia,

for a couple when they getting married??they should held a big reception..big ceremony...the higher the star of the hotel they are in to..the more prestige they get from it.the more people they can invite to it,the more extravaganza..

don't they realize that is not worthy at all?they spend it like millions of money just for one night..(2 or 3 hours max) then they think people will remember it for the rest of their life?nooo....its a big no no!coz how big the party u held,there will be a bigger party coming up soon right after u.

sooo..think twice when u think for a big extravagant married..coz better u spend it on your honeymoon( i think u can go to Paris or Milan with that kind of money budgeting..and the one that enjoys it is u and your lover.not anyone else who just come up to your big party, eat and go home.(some of them even maybe actually doesn't want to go at the first place coz to lazy to dress up or any other reasons...)<---i speak for myself for this one..hate dress up for going to marriage party,especially for someone i even not close with.going to salon,makeup,dress up.../even when i write this blog right now..its make my mood down a little bit. thanks God I'm not having any party invitation coming soon this month. 

now..the difference with the western countries..(as i seen it in the movies hohoho...)they only held it the back of their home,in their garden..more likely like a garden party..only close relative invited..walking down the aisle with a simple dress(not the one that scared me to death!the big under waist kind of wedding dress/remind me of a cake wedding/small on top and get bigger on the below)or..maybe they held it in some place else (at the

beach..) but still the number of people coming up are much more smaller measure up with here in Indonesia(usually they held a table kind of arrangement for the relative that come..and they don't invite the whole people on their address phone numbers to come!)

it is simple,elegant,yet not coz a lot of money..and energy!(wondering the bride who is wearing a heavy dress and high heels standing for 3 hours to shaking hands with people who congrats her for getting married..the the groom who have to spend a big amount of money that expired within 3 hours?)

what your excuses?

---> there is more of business related reason for a big wedding?(the big bosses, are also too busy to come back from work and have to put a nice suit to come up to the party..they also have to give some money rite?which with their title,they expected to give a big mount of money.don't u really think they happy with that?come on get real!)

---->i have a lot of friends and how should they know I'm getting married if i wasn't invited them?(just put the news on the news paper/if u really wanting them to know u married :p!Beside..from 100% of your friends, only 20% that's really close to u,and really care that u getting married)soo who cares bout what your friends think or speak bout it,It Is your wedding,have it your-way.even in your big day..u have to think what others would think bout u??so sad!

---->my family expected me to give them a respect in front of their friends (well..i pleased my family all the time..26 years until now!u want to please them? there still lots of time to please them,when u become a success person,when u give them a grandchildren,when u have a wonderful family of your own..)

but the point over here...its officially global economic crisis..so any reasons to have a big extravaganza marriage just to please others..is just stupid!(only if u are a paris Hilton or prince William,so don't have to concern with this situation..but for regular people like me,i don't believe in pleasing others in the expenses of myself suffering.that's all!

xoxo,

ms iconia